DDLG Playground

A safe place to learn about the lifestyle

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Anonymous asked: hey, i'd really love to meet a daddy, but rather not online. The thing is I have no idea where or how to meet one. Do you have any tips?

The best thing to do is to get involved in your local BDSM community. Check out some munchies and meetups and go from there. But remember, don’t attend with the soul purpose of finding a partner. Go, have fun, and meet new people. Fetlife is a good site for finding local events, clubs, and even potential parters.

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Anonymous asked: no matter how much daddy and i talk after a session, i always feel so sad and lonely and cold. idk what's happening and i can't make sense of it. what's wrong with me?

That sounds like subdrop. Talking and aftercare don’t always last the amount of time needed for your chemicals to regulate. Sometimes it takes days, sometimes weeks. Make sure you’re setting up the best aftercare kit for you. Cuddling and such helps, tea or hot chocolate, your favorite movie or book. Anything that helps you feel happy and loved. Here is a link with some other ideas to help you with subdrop. 

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Anonymous asked: I love how well baby powder works, but have you found something that works well but doesn't smell so obvious?

Have you tried unscented baby powder? 

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Anonymous asked: Is there a bdsm community in Edmonton?

According to Fetlife there are “14,343 Kinksters living in Edmonton”. Head on over to Fetlife.com, make an account and see for yourself. 

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Anonymous asked: My (female) partner and I are starting to experiment in age play where I'm the younger one. Our first array involved me (male) wearing little briefs, taking a bath, and lots of breast sucking.What are some other things we could try?

You could watch childrens movies or cartoons, drink out of superhero cups, taking your action figures to the tub with you, let her pick out your clothes, have kid foods together (Mac and cheese!), go on silly kid dates, color, do puzzles, whatever sounds good to you. 

Littles, just like kids, are all super different with their own interests. Explore around, try things that sound interesting, don’t get too upset if something goes wrong, and enjoy the ride. 

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Anonymous asked: I've been meeting littles online and having ddlg conversations with them. But the next morning, they don't even treat me like a daddy anymore. I'm new at this to be honest and when I try to remind them they just stop responding. What should I do and how can I become a better daddy?

Stop trying to be their Daddy from the first conversation. Get to know them as a person before moving any further. 

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Anonymous asked: I'm wanting to try out this whole BDSM thing with my gf, and really like the idea of restraints and gags. We already have a safe word, but what kind of thing can we use as a "safe word" when using restraints AND a gag?

Depending on the position the person is restrained in, tapping on the headboard/wall is a good one because it makes a sound loud enough to hear. You could also use snapping as a good, loud signal. Jingling keys or a bell is also an option, or squeaking a pet toy. Or a common one used on Kink.com is three quick grunts. No props are needed, and its pretty easy to remember. 

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Anonymous asked: How long is it safe to wear an anal plug (silicone) for? My Dom wants me to wear one at work, and I sometimes work really long hours. Just want to make sure I don't end up damaging something by overwearing. Also, I've cleaned it many many times (with soap and water and with toy cleaners) but it has picked up a funky smell. How do I get rid of the odor? Thanks!

There is no point at which it is suddenly dangerous. The danger is ignoring pain and not taking a break when your body needs it. Don’t go from wearing one for an hour at home to attempting a full day at work. You gotta work your way up to that, so you know how your body will react. You shouldn’t damage anything as long as you give your body time to recover and keep things lubricated. (Don’t use silicone lube with silicone toys, it can ruin them)

Make sure you bring supplies to take the plug out if it becomes uncomfortable at work and your bathroom has stalls so you wouldn’t have access to a sink without someone seeing. Think single packets of hand sanitizing wipes that you could toss in the toilet and a Ziploc bag to put in a purse. You never know how your body may feel about it and it’s better to be safe than sorry when you are doing something so extended in your place of employment.

As for the smell, you can try running it through the dishwasher or boiling it in water for about 5 minutes (keep it moving so it does not melt to the bottom of the pan)

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Anonymous asked: My girlfriend is coming over later, we do some light restraining, usually just a silk scarf tied around the wrists. However, she forgot to bring it.What could I use in a pinch to get the job done? Nothing too exotic around my house.

Be careful with ties and scarves in the future. The fabric is known to lock up very tightly so it’s very difficult to untie, and they’re not usually wide or long enough to wrap enough times to distribute pressure evenly. These can lead to nerve and circulation issues. You want to use something that is sturdy (not stretchy), and comfortable. Try a belt or a thick rope if you have access to some. 

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Anonymous asked: So my girlfriend admitted to me yesterday that she has a pregnancy fetish. As in like, being pregnant. However, neither of us wants, or is in a position to actually have kids. I'm not really sure what I can do to help her with regards to that fetish outside of actually getting her pregnant, something neither of us actually wants. So yeah, got any idea what I can/should do? :\

I feel like the easiest/safest way to indulge her fetish would be to talk dirty to her about getting her pregnant during sex. For example: I’m going to come inside you and fill you up/we’re going to keep trying until you’re pregnant/I can’t want to be a daddy/you’re going to look so sexy with a baby inside you, etc.